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Here's something to share from a friend's friend (:
How to Not Lose a Friend in 10 Days
1. Definitely don’t be too intimate or deep too quickly. Slow your roll. If you think you don’t need a filter every time you speak with them, as my good friend says, “CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU MESS YOURSELF.”
2. Be graciously honest, NOT brutally honest.
3. If you can, try to be intentional about having face time every once in awhile.
4. Do not speak just because there’s an uncomfortable silence. Just STFU. It’s silent for a reason. Enjoy it.
5. Acknowledge that they have other friends besides you. Know that you can’t fulfill all the friendship roles (the one you chat deep with, the one you lounge around with, the one you seek guidance from, the one you party with, the one you talk about boys with). Are you wondering what I’m to you, or vice versa?
6. Love covers a multitude of wrongdoings. Learn to forgive them, over and over again. Remember, it’s seventy-seven times.
7. If at all possible, remember reality and that friendships do not last forever. It can’t be intense and stay the same ALL THE TIME. Friends come and go for a purpose in your life. You’s hella lucky if they ever come back. Likewise, they’s hella lucky too.
8. Sometimes you have to step away from the friendship and evaluate it. But remember #2 and #3 in the process.
9. If you do #8, it helps to pray for them. Missing someone without praying for them is a waste of energy. Useless.
10. Remember that no one loves and cares in the same way; everyone has different love languages. Try to use their love language, and don’t be offended if they DON’T use yours.
11. Honor each other’s requests (unless it’s a life/death situation), no matter how ridiculous it sounds at the moment.
12. You should always be thinking in the back of your mind, “We are being sanctified,” especially when going through a friendship tumble…or death.
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How to Not Lose a Friend in 10 Days
1. Definitely don’t be too intimate or deep too quickly. Slow your roll. If you think you don’t need a filter every time you speak with them, as my good friend says, “CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU MESS YOURSELF.”
2. Be graciously honest, NOT brutally honest.
3. If you can, try to be intentional about having face time every once in awhile.
4. Do not speak just because there’s an uncomfortable silence. Just STFU. It’s silent for a reason. Enjoy it.
5. Acknowledge that they have other friends besides you. Know that you can’t fulfill all the friendship roles (the one you chat deep with, the one you lounge around with, the one you seek guidance from, the one you party with, the one you talk about boys with). Are you wondering what I’m to you, or vice versa?
6. Love covers a multitude of wrongdoings. Learn to forgive them, over and over again. Remember, it’s seventy-seven times.
7. If at all possible, remember reality and that friendships do not last forever. It can’t be intense and stay the same ALL THE TIME. Friends come and go for a purpose in your life. You’s hella lucky if they ever come back. Likewise, they’s hella lucky too.
8. Sometimes you have to step away from the friendship and evaluate it. But remember #2 and #3 in the process.
9. If you do #8, it helps to pray for them. Missing someone without praying for them is a waste of energy. Useless.
10. Remember that no one loves and cares in the same way; everyone has different love languages. Try to use their love language, and don’t be offended if they DON’T use yours.
11. Honor each other’s requests (unless it’s a life/death situation), no matter how ridiculous it sounds at the moment.
12. You should always be thinking in the back of your mind, “We are being sanctified,” especially when going through a friendship tumble…or death.
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thanks for sharing, 可爱的朋友 (:
